We All Want True Love
We all want to find love; in fact you could say we are in love with love. Without love, we are little more than empty vessels. Our problem is that we don’t fully understand what love is, let alone how it works. We seek it outside of ourselves in the form of interpersonal relationships and romantic love. Romantic love can be addictive, but it is not pure love, it is a veritable cocktail of emotions. It can have any combination of the following:- love, lust, attachment, nervous excitement, jealousy and co-dependency. It may also be further affected by a number of personal issues, including control issues, mistrust, abusive behavior, deception and so forth. The end-result is that we experience love as a curious mixture of joy, frustration, excitement, confusion and suffering.
Romantic Love Ends In Pain
Romantic love is doomed from the start. It is doomed to end in pain. At best, it can last only until one partner dies, leaving the other grief-stricken. In the majority of cases, it is much more short-lived than that; furthermore, its ending usually proves to be a deeply painful experience for one or both parties. Getting married is no cure-all. Just look at the proportion of divorces compared to the number of lifelong marriages. There are those who have lost faith in marriage altogether. They prefer to content themselves with affairs, yet affairs have even less permanence than marriages. You are free to pin all your hopes on human love, but be prepared for a bumpy ride.
Real Love Does Exist
The (very) good news is that there is an absolutely pure and permanent form of Love available to you. You may call it Real Love, True Love, Higher Love, Spiritual Love, Soul Love, Universal Love, Divine Love or whatever takes your fancy. Once you experience it, there is no going back. It is so far superior to human love, there is just no comparison. In fact, the part of human love that we find so irresistible, is the aspect of Higher Love which shines dimly through it. Unfortunately, other thoughts, feelings and agendas get in the way and make it merely a poor reflection of Divine Love.
Paramhanse Yogananda writes:- The greatest romance you can have is the romance with God. Human love goes away in a little while, but your romance with God is eternal.
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To Love Or To Be Loved?
The first myth you need to release is that you need an intimate relationship with some or other particular special someone (soul mate) in order to experience true love. An even more insidious and disempowering belief is that you have to be loved by someone before you can experience true love. Love is something that you feel within yourself. It does not require reciprocity in order to exist. It is entirely possible (and not uncommon) to be adored by someone, but unless you love them, it remains an empty and unsatisfactory experience.
If you could feel even a particle of divine love, so great would be your joy—so overpowering—you could not contain it – Paramhansa Yogananda http://www.yogananda-srf.org/tmp/spiritual.aspx?id=4111
You Are Already Truly Loved
No matter who you are or what your circumstances, you are not merely connected to True Love, your very existence depends upon it. It is omnipresent. You cannot find any place where it is absent; in fact, the creation itself is manifested via True Love. From this, you can conclude that I am referring to something far greater than romantic love. I am in fact referring to Divine Love. “That is all well and good” I hear you say, “but how does that help me find true love?” Let’s see if I can help you by getting more practical about it.
We live that we may learn to love; we love that we may learn to live. No other lesson is required of man. From The Book of Mirdad, by Mikhail Naimy
If True Love is Everywhere, Why Don’t I Experience It?
If, as just stated, Love is omnipresent, why don’t we all experience it all the time? The answer lies with the nature of our minds. Has your mind ever stopped thinking? There are people who are afraid they will die if they stop thinking. Your mind is always busy talking, shouting, singing, crying, worrying, criticizing, complaining, fearing, craving, worrying, distracting itself, suffering and all the other things it does throughout your life. It believes it is in sole charge of your life and tries its level best to direct every aspect of it. It is never still long enough for you to experience your True Self and the Love that is with you at all times.
Where Can I Find True Love?
True Love is always right there, within you. It has a deep, intimate relationship with you, but until you awaken, it remains a one-sided relationship. It is so close to you that you look right past it. You are too busy looking outside for love while it lies within you all the time. It is always waiting for you, but you remain too busy with other things. Fortunately, it is infinitely patient.
How Hard Is It To Access Higher Love? How Long Will It Take?
The difficulty and time it takes, will depend on many factors. For some, Higher Love is fairly easy to access. These people seem to have a head start. Love is a part of their make-up and with only a little effort they can rekindle their relationship with Higher Love. It is not an accident of birth though. These people have fewer hangups and barriers in place between themselves and Truth. For others, it can be years away, decades away, or even most of a lifetime away. There are a great many factors that can influence your outcome. Some are within your control and some not. A major factor is how hungry you are for it and another, how consistently you work at unlocking it.
How Can You Contact Real Love?
So, how can you go about making contact with Real Love in your life? There are two main aspects you need to focus upon:-
1) A Spiritual Practice
You need to adopt a consistent, effective daily spiritual practice. There are many practices you could use to try to achieve this, but the two which are most effective are meditation and heartfelt prayer. We all come from different religious backgrounds, so naturally, different things will appeal to us in this sphere of life. I have no intention of trying to steer you towards a particular path or organization. It is better that you conduct your own search. Put aside prejudice and follow your heart, but be sensible about it. Whatever you decide upon, you should be absolutely certain it is a) the Truth, to the best of your understanding; b) it fills you with Joy, always and c) it does not take away your free choice.
The greatest love you can experience is in communion with God in meditation. The love between the soul and Spirit is the perfect love, the love you are all seeking. When you meditate, love grows.Paramhansa Yogananda http://www.yogananda-srf.org/tmp/spiritual.aspx?id=4111
Warning! There are many mistakes you can make on a spiritual path. A common error is to believe that once you have found your spiritual path everything else is automatically taken care of. This is a trap that anyone can easily fall into (I fell into it myself – for far too long). “Surrender” is a very seductive concept, but it does not mean what most people want it to mean. “Leaving everything in the hands of the Divine” may sound like a very spiritual thing to do, but if it is nothing more than abdicating your responsibilities, it will most certainly slow you down. It will impact negatively on your nearest and dearest and tragically, it will postpone your date with Divine Love.
Important Advice
The best advice I can give you, is “use your common sense at all times”. Don’t allow yourself to be seduced by ideas and concepts that provide you with emotional excitement in the short term, but are ultimately not in your best interests. Don’t allow your mind to trick you by giving skewed interpretations to sayings and texts either. There is no free ride – and if you think you have found a path that absolves you of all responsibility, you may waste a great deal of time as a result. Worse still, your attitude and behavior could cause pain to those closest to you.
Should I Shout It From The Rooftops?
When you find your Truth, it will seem so obviously true that you will most likely be keen to tell all and sundry about it. Don’t be surprised if your nearest and dearestg don’t react with the kind of enthusiasm you expect. Your path and your time may have arrived, but that doesn’t necessarily apply to your friends and family. Everyone has their own path – and their own time too. You have something in your life that is precious beyond measure, but to try share it with someone who isn’t receptive is an unpleasant experience. You may even feel that you have somehow disrespected or cheapened it by talking to someone who doesnt respect it as you do..
Practice Discernment
Certainly, it would be very selfish to refuse to share your Truth with a sincere seeker of Truth, but it is better to let others draw it out of you than to push it upon them. Rather wait until you are asked, and even when asked, you need to distinguish between those with a deep desire for Truth and those who are merely curious. Your faith is far too precious to be the subject of mere curiosity or a topic of polite conversation.
No Doctrine Can Guarantee Your Success
The fact that you have found your Path is wonderful indeed, but that alone is insufficient to bring you spiritual success. You need to practice what your Path preaches at a bare minimum, but even with the best of intentions and the most dedicated practice, you will not manifest True Love in your life without taking further steps. In fact, when you dedicate yourself to personal growth, you can access True Spiritual Love without ever following a formal Path, philosophy or religion. By the same token, one immersed in doctrine but unwilling to grow can pass their whole life without ever so much as getting a glimpse of Divine Love.
So How Can You Manifest True Love?
To manifest Real, True Love in your life, simply remove the barriers you have unwittingly created. Another way of putting this, is that you need to release all of the habitual thoughts, beliefs and emotions that drag you down. Your vibrational frequency needs to rise. The clearer you are, the more it can rise. The more it rises, the more you will experience Divine Love.
Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.
~Rumi
What Is Vibrational Frequency?
If vibrational frequency is an unfamiliar concept to you, then think of it like this. Everything you think about affects how you feel. The emotions you feel have various effects on you. They may be uplifting, neutral or depressing. To understand it better, contemplate on the following two lists of words. Think about them and see how each makes you feel. List 1:-Hopelessness, fear, depression, anger, grief, blame, doubt, confusion, greed, shame. Now contemplate on list 2:- Joy, forgiveness, clarity, Peace, gratitude, confidence, healing, compassion, Wisdom, Love. Which set brings you closer to Love and which takes you further away? Some will say that emotions are merely reactions and they have no control over them. That is only one part of a bigger picture.
How Do You Habitually Make Yourself Feel?
The difference in how you feel when you think about those two lists should be fairly noticeable. Those things that uplift you raise your vinrational frequency and those that make you feel unhappy, tense or fearful lower it. So ask yourself “What do I mostly think about? What do I talk about, read about, listen to, watch? How do these habitual behaviors make me feel? Do they uplift me and fill me with Love, Joy, confidence and optimism? Or do they drag me down and fill me with unhappiness, self-doubt, frustration and pessimism?” You uplift yourself or drag yourself down purely by the things you focus upon. The good news is that you can change your entire experience of life by simply changing what you focus upon.
Breaking A Negative Loop
It can happen, particularly when you are upset, that you find yourself caught up in thoughts and feelings which seem to take over your thinking. They just run through your mind over and over, like a computer with faulty code trapped in a loop. When that happens to you, you need to take a step back and come to an understanding of what lies behind this pattern. (there is always a reason) If you cannot get out of the loop by yourself, you could definitely benefit from working with someone who is an experienced expert in the process (Ahem! Someone like me.)
The Real Reason Is Seldom What It Looks Like
There usually is some obvious outer cause for your upset, but what is going on is deeper than that. What it boils down to is that you are reacting to circumstances strongly and in an unhelpful manner. Each time you encounter a similar situation, you probably react the same way. When you feel helpless to react any other way, that is a sure sign that you are “running a program”.
What Does “Running a Program” Mean?
This is a pattern that YOU have established, for a particular reason. You yourself will have unwittingly installed that program in your own mind, probably many years ago. When you are able to understand the reason you are reacting that way, you can stop “running that program”. You will then be free to choose to act or not to act, instead of blindly reacting. You can still react if you want to, but you will likely react in a more constructive way. The point is that you will then have the opportunity to make a choice, instead of merely reacting unconsciously.
Repeating Patterns of Suffering
When you have a pattern that keeps repeating itself, you may feel very frustrated, sometimes even desperate. Believe it or not, a repeating pattern it is actually a good thing. It is a wonderful opportunity to learn and grow. It is a result of your Higher Self trying to bring something to your attention; something that your mind doesn’t want to accept. When you take a step back and properly examine it, you will no doubt uncover an unhelpful belief that you have adopted (probably when you were too young to know better). To break the pattern, you must a) recognize that the belief you hold is faulty, unhelpful and untrue, then b) simply replace it with the truth.
Understanding Changes Everything
The good news is that examining an unhelpful belief and seeing it for what it is, brings with it a deeper understanding of yourself. More importantly, it also opens the way for you to adopt a truthful, more constructive belief. When you see your faulty belief for what it is, you are free to replace it with the truth. This simple process can profoundly change your entire experience of life for the better.
Why I Want To Help You Find Real Love
I have dedicated over 50 years of my life to my own personal search for True Love. The outcome has been a deep and compassionate understanding of the human condition. I have learned an enormous amount about how to support and facilitate growth. I have accumulated a great deal of wisdom and understanding, plus numerous tools and techniques capable of creating powerful “Aha! moments” in your life. Now it is my turn to pass on these benefits to others. It is my mission to help people understand and practice this process. This simple, gentle, yet extremely powerful process will align you with Truth and this will allow you to make dramatic strides forward in life.
What Can You expect To Get Out Of It?
What I truly love is seeing my clients achieve deeply meaningful results in their own lives. My clients are the legacy I leave behind when I depart this life. Interestingly, the results manifest on many different levels. At the lowest levels, you will likely experience a calmer, clearer, lighter, more focused life. At the highest levels, you can experience indescribable Joy as the Higher Love flows abundantly through your life, inspiring you and activating your life purpose. All along the way, you will experience personal growth. Personal growth is essential at every step, since it facilitates closer contact with the Soul, or Higher Self and through Soul, to Divine Love.
What Is It Like To Have Divine Love in Your Life?
There are no words to describe the experience of Divine Love and even if there were, nobody would try to describe it. It is something far too precious to speak of. Those who have it are silent. They would sooner face suffering than cheapen It with words and they would sooner die than lose It. The sparkle in their eyes tells the whole story. No amount of money, success or power can buy that sparkle. Wouldn’t you also love to have that kind of magic in your life and that priceless sparkle in your eyes? You can, if it is important enough to you.
Are You Feeling It?
If this information resonates with you, then you and I are on the same page. We are kindred spirits, for whom Love is the greatest gift of all. I would love to have a meaningful conversation with you. If you feel drawn to speak to me, don’t hesitate; don’t procrastinate; don’t sleep on it. Importantly, don’t debate it with your partner or your friends. It is too deep and too personal for anyone else to understand.
What Next?
If you have read this far, it is pretty safe to conclude that you are feeling a certain magnetic pull. That is your guidance speaking. It speaks through your heart. Listen to what your heart is telling you and act before your mind overrules your guidance (in case you haven’t noticed, that is what it always tries to do).